Fathers are critically important in the lives of their children. Who can teach their child the fun of rough-and-tumble play?

Who can read stories before bed in funny voices? Who can teach their boys how to shave? Or teach their sons and daughters to be treated with respect by others? A father is the ideal role model to teach these lessons to their children.

Play with your kids. Children use play to process their ever-changing world. As parents, fathers are uniquely equipped to engage their children in a type of play that science has proven to be beneficial for them.

From a young age, rough and tumble or interactive play is essential for children because it helps with brain development. This type of play specifically can help children learn how to manage their emotions, while also having an outlet to express their energy and creative thought out in a safe environment. This form of play encourages the development of self-regulation, which forces children to think through their ideas and instructions and consider the emotions they feel during playtime.

When dads are involved in this play, children, who are encouraged to play as hard as they can, learn how to take appropriate risks. Moms tend to convey the messages to children that they are safe and protected from the world.

Dads can build on that message through play that inspires children to go a step further and explore the world! When playing with dad, children are typically encouraged to play a little rougher. When children push a little too far with dad, this type of play also helps children to learn recognize limits.

Read to your kids. When dads read to their children, it can help to increase the father-child emotional bond. Fathers who show interest and encourage children in reading can also improve many educational outcomes for children.

Research has shown that children with fathers who are involved in their education will significantly impact feelings of success and positive life goals, among those children. Fathers who are seen reading around the house (books, newspapers, etc.), in addition to reading to their children, send messages that reading is an enjoyable activity.

Be silly and animated. Children love to be entertained and dads are uniquely equipped to add color and excitement to the stories that builds children's imagination and creativity. Bedtime can be a fantastic time to bond around storytelling and reading. This time serves as a regular and predictable routine that children learn to expect. Children learn patience when they sit still during story time. When children can sit back and imagine the story in their mind, it serves as a de-stressing, relaxing routine.

Talk to your kids. Talking with children is one of the essential keys to building a strong relationship with them. When stressed, many fathers shift into task or "fix-it" mode and miss opportunities for teachable moments or to simply check in on the kids' day.

When dads engage their children in daily conversation, the goal is for their children to feel safe, allowing them to share deeper elements of emotions they may be feeling on the inside. Communicating is also an important way to help children understand their own emotions and feelings. The goal is for dads to help their children become aware of their feelings, be able to label their feelings and to aim for helping them to feel safe openly talking about them together.

For more information about financial management, health and wellness, parenting or to schedule a program in the family and consumer sciences area, contact the OSU Cooperative Extension Service in Cherokee County by phone at 918-456-6163.

Heather Winn is a family and consumer sciences educator for the Oklahoma Cooperative Extension Service in Cherokee County.

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