Abdicated parental involvement is no where more evident than in our educational system. No system of education can function when parents relinquish the reins of raising their children by saying: “You make sure my child eats, you make sure that my child can read, you make sure that my child gets enough exercise, you make sure that my child does not bully anyone. You take care of them.”
A 1995 paper by Henderson and Berla, reported that, the most accurate predictor of a student’s achievement is not income or social status. Instead, if a family can accomplish just two of three listed criteria, children of low income families will achieve at or above the levels expected of middle class children. Those three criteria are: (1) Create a home environment that encourages learning; (2) Express high (but not unrealistic) expectations for their children’s achievement and future careers; and (3) Become involved in their children’s education at school and in the community.”
Sounds simple, huh. Unfortunately, it is easier to buy a child a ball than to teach them how to play with it.
Oklahoma’s schools are filled with thousands of caring, compassionate teachers who are underpaid, whose pensions are under attack and who log hours and hours of unpaid time making our children better and thereby improving society. Thank goodness they love what they do. Thank goodness they love our children so much that they make sure our children eat and get enough exercise. They even try to make sure that our children do not bully.
Unfortunately, fewer and fewer are financially able to enjoy the vocation they so love and many walk away from their chosen career instead of facing a lifelong lack of respect or appreciation.
Well, the cat’s in the cradle, and the silver spoon, Little Boy Blue, and the Man in the Moon. When you coming home, Dad? I don’t know when. You know I’m going to be like you, Dad. You know I’m going to be like you.
Let’s stop the cycle. Get involved in the life of your children. They will appreciate the boundaries that you set.